When Your Best Friend Validates Your Crappy Feelings

This past week, I had the ultimate pleasure of covering the 142 Kentucky Oaks and Derby for the radio group. I got to meet so many people and see so many amazing things. Then after the Oaks, we headed downtown to the Fillies and Stallions fundraiser party for the American Cancer Society. Big stuff, I know...

After a full, crazy work day, we got to the party at around 10:30 PM which is thirty minutes past my usual bedtime.  I wasn't feeling it at all and because I was driving I couldn't even have an adult beverage after our work was done. At 2 a.m., I'd just had enough so my best friend, Katie, and I headed back to her home in Louisville.

I confessed to Katie that I felt like a total buzzkill and I wanted to have a good time but I couldn't. I expected Katie to say, "No, you were so much fun," or lie to me in some other sweet fashion but her response surprised me. Then it made me tear up a tiny bit.

She said, "Ashley, you are allowed to be a buzzkill. You have a lot going on, you are tired, and you don't always have to be the life of the party. I validate your buzzkill."

It's exactly what I needed to hear in that moment. My best friend validated my feelings and made them okay for me to feel. And, I didn't have to feel guilty for being exhausted.

That's why I love her and that's why she's my best friend. :)